Abuse is a pattern of physical, sexual, economic and/or psychological violence used to get control and maintain control over an intimate partner. It is important to know that you do not deserve to be abused, nor are you responsible for the abuse. Below are some examples of types of abuse that are common.
Physical AbusePushing, hitting, choking, kicking, biting, cutting, burning, spittingHolding you down or preventing you from leaving the roomThrowing objects at youThreatening you with a weaponLocking you in or out of the houseAbandoning you in dangerous placesPreventing you from getting sleep or waking you up out of sleepRefusing help when you are sick, injured or pregnantEndangering you by driving wildly or recklessly
Psychological AbuseIgnoring your feelingsMaking fun of your beliefsThreatening to take your childrenManipulating you with liesDegrading women as a groupCalling you names like bitch, slut, whore, or cunt Telling you that you're stupid, dumb, fat, or ugly Refusing to take you placesIsolating you from your friends and familyConstantly criticizing you and the way you do thingsMaking fun of your friends and familyTaking away your car keys or moneyThreatening to leave you or making you leaveThreatening to hurt your familyHurting your children when he was angry at youHurting your pets to get at youThreatening to take your children if you leave
Economic AbuseRefusing to give you money for food or clothingMaking you ask for moneyForcing you to hand over money that you earnMaking you spend all your own money while he doesn't spend hisRefusing to support your childrenNot letting you have access to a checking accountNot letting you be involved in making decisions about money
Sexual AbuseTreating you as a sex objectAssuming that you will have sex with any manCriticizing the way you act during sexWithholding sex and affectionForcing you to have sex when you do not want toForcing you to have sex with other peopleForcing you to have sex after an argument or beatingForcing you to have sex when you are pregnant or sickRefusing to pay bills or take care of other basic needs until you have sex with himCalling you a "whore" after sexInsisting on unwanted or uncomfortable touchingForcing you to have sex then telling you that you "wanted it"Accusing you of having sex with other womenTelling and bragging about sex with other womenChecking your clothing for signs that you have had sex with someoneAssuming that you have to have sex with him because you are "his woman"